How to Become a More Confident Person

Confidence is the most beautiful thing you can wear. Be confident in who you are and proud of who you are becoming. Your success will be established by your confidence and courage. Believe you can and you are already halfway to achieving your dreams and goals. As you keep moving forward, you will keep getting better and in turn gain more confidence. Whenever you face the things that scare you, you gain strength, courage and confidence in the process.

Confidence comes from within. You don’t need validation from anyone to become more confident.

Here are five (5) ways to become a more confident person;

1. Don’t compare yourself to others.

Confident people don’t compare themselves to others. They compare themselves to the person they were yesterday. They don’t get intimidated by people’s success because they believe in their own potentials.

In order to become a more confident person you must learn to avoid comparison. Comparison will make you unhappy when you realize that the other person is doing better than you. You don’t need to compare yourself with others. The sun and the moon shine when it is their time. Work on yourself. Strive to be a better version of yourself. You are your only competition.

2. Practice positive self-talk.

Words are more powerful than you can ever imagine. The things you say to yourself on a daily basis can either build you up or break you down. To be a more confident person, avoid saying things to yourself that will sort of break you down. Be conscious of your self-talk for it is a deep conversation with the universe.

Confident people do not entertain negative self-talk because they know it has negative impact on their self-esteem and the way they perceive the world. To be a more confident person you must learn to overcome negative self-talk. Recognize negative thinking patterns when they come and replace them with positive thoughts.

See: Ways to Overcome Negative Self-talk

3. Embrace failure.

A confident person is not afraid of failure because they know that failure is not the opposite of success, but part of it. They are not afraid to fail and will embrace it when it comes. They have a different mindset about failure.

You didn’t really fail at something if you gained experience on how to accomplish it the next time. True failure is not the inability to accomplish a task, true failure is refusing to give yourself the opportunity for a second attempt. The one who fails but learns from his failure is better than the one who never gave himself the opportunity to try.

Give yourself the permission to try without the fear of failure. You won’t be regarded as a failure because you couldn’t accomplish a task, you will be called a failure because you gave up on your dreams and goals.

See: 4 Effective Methods to Conquer Fear of Failure

4. Maintain a positive mindset.

How you see yourself is very important. Your mindset is a set of beliefs that shape the way you see yourself. Your mindset influences how you think, feel and act in any particular situation.

If your mindset is negative, your thoughts, feelings and actions will also be negative. A negative mindset will never give you a positive life. Negativity brings bad breaks, disappointments, failures, misfortunes etc.

Confident people always cultivate positive thoughts. They know how important it is to maintain a positive mindset, because it helps them make better decisions about their life. Positive mindset produces positive ideas which leads to success.

See: How to Maintain a Positive Mindset

5. Learn to say no.

You will run yourself dry by trying to please everyone. Sometimes it is better to say “no” and keep your sanity than say “yes” and be emotionally drained. Learn to say “no” without explaining yourself.

Confident people always say what they mean and mean what they say. Sometimes saying “no” is the most honest thing you can do for yourself and others. It creates healthy boundaries between you and others. Unapologetically saying what you mean makes people respect your boundaries.

Say “no” when you actually mean “no”. Learn to set your standards and stand by them. Don’t give anyone the power to control your emotions into making unwanted decisions. Don’t lose yourself trying to please everyone. If you live for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection.

See also: 7 Ways to Overcome Your Insecurities