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7 Ways You Are Self-Sabotaging and How to Stop It

7 Ways You Are Self-Sabotaging and How to Stop It

Be careful what you say to yourself, because you are also listening. Every word you voice out, whether positive or negative will take its effect in due time. Sometimes we say things we don’t really mean, thinking it won’t have any future effect. The fact that you didn’t seriously mean what you said did not in any way deny the effectiveness of the spoken word. Whenever you find yourself in a situation that urges you to make negative utterances, keep quiet. Sometimes you can unknowingly and unwillingly be the toxic person; the enemy sabotaging yourself. The one always coming in-between your goals and accomplishments. There are ways to know how you are self-sabotaging and necessary measures to break the pattern in order to lead a happy and successful life.

Take a look at seven (7) ways you are self-sabotaging and how to stop it;
1) Negative self-talk:
Negative self-talk
At any moment you find yourself in life, the decision you make can change the course of your life forever. The decisions we make are usually geared by the thoughts we think. The thoughts we think are pictures of the mind that have constructive or destructive possibilities and have power with emotions. Positive thoughts are constructive and can produce positive outcomes. Negative thoughts on the other hand are highly destructive and when harbored they yield negative outcomes. Thoughts cannot be completely destroyed, but they can be replaced with another. The negative self-talks you have can completely ruin your chances of achieving success. You may be putting in the effort, but if your thoughts keep contradicting your efforts, disharmony will taint everything you do. Replace every negative thought with positive thoughts and watch your life move in the positive direction.
2) Fear:
Fear is not real. It seems real because you believe it to be real. Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by threat, danger or harm. Fear is like a lazy child who doesn’t want to grow out of its comfort zone. Fear comes with a lot of darkness and negative energy, like; depression, anxiety, heartache, confusion, low self-esteem, lack of faith, lack of peace, in sufficiency it also creates its own little world in your head, and makes you view life from a fearful angle. And as time goes by, it clouts and deprives you of your own abode. The fears you don’t face become your limits. The things you fear ends up happening to you. Fear sabotages all your efforts, leaving you feeling disgruntled. Have faith over fear. Replace your fears with faith. Believe in yourself and all that you are capable of becoming. Don’t let your fears stop you from becoming the best version of yourself.
3) Self-guilt:
No one is completely perfect. We all at some point have failures and shortcomings. Our shortcomings don’t mean we are not good enough. Whatever happened in the past that has made it impossible to forgive yourself and move forward will keep presenting itself in other circumstances unless resolved. Make peace with your past so that it won’t screw up your future. It is difficult to move forward when you still cling to the past. Clinging to the past will make you miss out on the wonderful opportunities the present offers. Let go of the burden of self-guilt. Keep encouraging yourself to move forward. You are more than good enough. Forgive yourself.
4) Procrastination:
Procrastination is well-known as the thief of time. Every day you spend procrastinating is another day wasted worrying about that same thing. Worrying is a waste of your time, it keeps you busy doing nothing. Whatever you plan to do, do it on time. Never do tomorrow what you can do today. You cannot by any chance escape the responsibility of tomorrow by avoiding it today. Procrastination doesn’t just sabotage all your chances of achieving success, but also kills your unborn dreams and destinies. The more you procrastinate, the more the door of opportunities closes. You become more confident and powerful when you do the thing you planned to do. It gives you a rewarding feeling. Whenever an opportunity present itself, seize the moment. Don’t procrastinate.

5) Lack of self-love:

Lack of self-love

You are the one you have been looking for. Learn to love yourself. Lack of self-love will prevent you from becoming the best version of yourself. You can’t truly love others without loving yourself first. When you learn to love yourself, you will get to understand that you are your biggest supporter. Help yourself move forward by loving everything that you are. Learn to embrace your mistakes and shortfalls. You can’t do this without you. Don’t judge or condemn yourself whenever you have shortcomings. By truly loving yourself, you will attract the most caring and compassionate type of people to yourself. They will love that you love yourself. They will love you for who you are. Learn to love yourself.

6) Comparison:
Life is a journey, not a destination. We were placed here on earth for a specific purpose. Everyone has their own individual race to run. It is your duty to find your purpose and walk in it. You can’t discover what your journey is all about when you keep spending time comparing yourself to others. Whenever you compare yourself to others, always remember that you are doing yourself an injustice. You are more capable than you believe you are. Keep building yourself in the right direction. Don’t look to see if the next person is doing better than you are. Comparison steals happiness and discourages you from moving forward. Focus on you. Only compare yourself to the person you were yesterday. You are your only competition. Strive to become a better version of yourself.
7) Ingratitude: 
A grateful heart is a magnet for blessings and miracles. When you are not grateful for what you have, you won’t be given more. When you start being grateful for everything you have and everything that had happened to you in the past, life offers you an opportunity to grow. Life is ever ready to bless the grateful. Always lead with gratitude. Do everything with thanksgiving in your heart. Don’t go around feeling the world owes you something. No one owes you anything. Ingratitude self-sabotages. It prevents you for receiving favors from anyone. Look around. There is a lot to be grateful for. Count your blessings and name them one by one.
Thanks for reading.

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