Relationships play a vital role in our lives. It supports the evolution of our existence. The kind of relationship you develop with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you engage yourself in. Relationships flourish when the law of giving and receiving is applied; do as you want to be done to you. When you treat your partner the way he/she would love to be treated, the reward is often the same. Everyone wants to nurture a healthy relationship, either with your partner or with your kids.
When you apply these four (4) basic qualities listed below to the law of giving and receiving, your relationship will blossom;
LOVE: Love is the essence of our very being, for we are all founded on love. If there is anything better than to be loved, it is showing love. Most times, people believe that love is best appreciated when it is returned in the same manner. That is not wrong, but not totally right either. Love is best expressed when you love without expectations. Love without the intentions of getting loved back. That is true love.
As a parent, you tend to show good affections towards your children. Even on those times they try to be naughty. For you love them despite their behavior. That is true love.
Question: If you only love those who love you, why should you expect to be loved from those you don’t love?
HONESTY: This is the quality, condition, or characteristics of being truthful, fair, just and morally upright. Honesty builds integrity. The highest virtue in life and relationship is the virtue of integrity. Your willingness to be completely honest with yourself and others is the real measure of character.
The more you practice honesty in your relationship with yourself and your partner, the more you will love and respect your partner, and the more they will love and respect you.
TRUST: Confidence in or reliance on some person or quality. Trust is very essential for a healthy relationship with your partner. It is the foundation on which reliable relationships are built. A relationship without trust is like a vehicle without fuel, you can stay inside all you want, but it won’t go anywhere. To someone who knows the value of trust, they would tell you trust is more valuable than love because you can’t love someone you don’t trust. You only love those you trust.
COMPROMISE: Acceptance over personal need. This is when you come to an agreement with your partner not because your need was met, but the fact that you would rather have peace in the relationship. For a good relationship, you must be willing to set your ego aside. You must be willing to compromise for peace to reign. Also, this quality promotes the growth of a relationship. Most times, after a hurtful experience with you partner, you find it hard to forgive them. But, when eventually you forgive, you forgive your partner not because they are right and you are wrong, but for the fact that you would rather have them in your life than lose them. That promotes growth.
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