Your desire to change must be greater than your desire to stay the same. If you keep following the same route that you have been taking, you will keep arriving at the same destination. Life is like a movie with you in focus; if you do not like how the story goes, then it is about time you rewrite the script. You have the power to change yourself.
You only need about 21 days to build a new habit. Quit whatever pattern that affects you in a negative way and start building positive and empowering habits. Learn to let go of anything that hinders your personal and spiritual growth and focus on building healthy habits that will empower you to make positive impact.
Take a look at five (5) habits you should quit;
1. Negative Self-Talk.
The things you say to yourself on a regular basis will either build you up or break you down. Quit saying anything to yourself that you do not want to come true. Be mindful of negative self-talk for it has a great impact on your personality and the way you perceive life.
It is advisable that you quit negative self-talk due to the fact that it can have a negative impact on your self-esteem and the way you perceive the world. To be able to overcome negative self-talk, it is very important to be mindful of your negative thinking patterns and find effective ways to change them with positive self-talk.
2. Fear of The Unknown.
Face your fears. Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. It is about time you face your fears in order to gain more understanding about the situation. As you get a better understanding about the thing causing you to fear, you will be able to overcome your fear of the unknown.
Do not fear success or failure. The moment you let fear in, it will creep into other areas of your life and sabotage every productive idea you plan to carry out. Fear prevents you from becoming the best version of yourself. If you truly want to live your life to the fullest, then you must be prepared to face the things that are causing you to fear.
Procrastination is well-known as the thief of time. The more you keep procrastinating about something, the longer it takes to achieve it. Every day you spend procrastinating is another day wasted without achieving any meaningful result. The longer it takes you to complete a task, the more worried you will become. Do not suspend doing what you can do today for tomorrow.
Now is the right time to complete most of your unfinished tasks. The only way to quit procrastinating is by doing the thing you said you will do. Do it now! Do not leave it for later. Whenever you complete a task or finish something that you have been procrastinating to do for a long time, you begin to get a sense of fulfillment. This makes you feel powerful and capable of achieving anything you set your mind to achieve.
4. Criticizing Others.
Criticizing a person does not define who they are, but instead it defines you. People who are fond of criticizing others are ignorant of how much pain they themselves are experiencing. Emotionally strong people do not derive pleasure in bringing other people down in order to feel good about themselves. You will only find people who criticizes with low self-esteem and confidence.
Quit criticizing or judging other people because you are unaware of the things they are going through. If you cannot say anything positive about someone, it is better you hold your peace. Someone who criticizes others in order to feel better, stronger and starter is openly displaying their weakness.
5. People Pleasing.
Sometimes it is better to say “no” about certain things. Sometimes saying no to someone is the most honest thing you can do for yourself and the person. It sets healthy boundaries between you and others. If you do not feel like doing something for someone, it is better you say no to the person than displease yourself to please the person. In refusing to do something you do not want to, you are able to keep your sanity.
Yes, it is good to help others but when it costs you your peace, you should definitely say no. Saying no to someone does not mean that you hate or despise them, but rather it means that you do not want anything that will disturb your peace of mind. Do not let anyone force you into doing something that you do not want to participate in. If you live your life for people’s acceptance, you will die from their rejection. Quit people pleasing.
Thanks for reading.
See also: 10 Things You Need to Give Up