Anything that costs you your peace is way too expensive. You can’t afford to live the rest of your life as a prisoner of your thoughts. Whatever happened in the past that made it impossible for you to move on with your life, will keep screwing up the present until you sum up courage to let go.
Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. It is important for one to know when to keep holding on and when to let go. Be strong enough to hold on if something is still worth fighting for and find the strength to let go if it is no longer worth fighting for.
Follow these six (6) guidelines to make your life better;
1. Make peace with your past so that it won’t screw up the present.
Whatever happened in the past is gone forever and never to return; yet some people still find themselves reliving their past experiences. They suffer these traumatic experiences because they are still stuck in their past. You won’t be able to move forward with your life when you still cling to your past. If you do not make peace with your past, it will keep screwing up the present; and your life will invariably be plagued with heartbreaks, disappointments, misfortunes etc.
2. What others think of you is none of your business.
You are in the business of becoming the best version of yourself. Do not deny your true identity or who you aspire to become just because someone has a problem with it. Your life is your responsibility. You are responsible for your actions and the following consequences. You are the one that will receive life’s hard knocks when life choses to be unfair; not others, so forget what they think of you. If they do not inspire you to become the best version of yourself, let them go. What others think of you is none of your business, it is what you think of yourself that really matters.
3. Time heals almost everything, give it time.
Healing is not an overnight process. Healing is a process that takes time. Don’t feel disheartened and give up when something takes too long to achieve. Learn to take each day one step at a time in order to fully recover from your past experiences. Be patient with yourself as you heal from all the things that have deeply wounded you mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Give yourself time to grow. Don’t try to rush your healing process by being impatient with yourself. As you practice being patient with yourself, you character gets rebuilt. Without growth of character, you will get wounded by similar experiences again.
4. Don’t compare your life with others and don’t judge them.
Nothing steals happiness more than comparison. There is no reason to compare your life with others because you have no clue what their journey is all about. Life is a journey not a destination and everyone has their own journey to embark on.
Comparing your life with others will leave you feeling depressed especially if you see them attaining great height. You have no reason to compare your life with others or judge them since you have no idea what their journey is all about.
If you keep comparing your life to other people, you will fail to see how unique and special you are. Don’t compare yourself to other people. The only person you should compare yourself with is the person you were yesterday. Strive to be a better version of yourself. You are your only competition.
5. Don’t worry yourself about the things you can’t control.
Worrying is an absolute waste of your precious time. Worrying doesn’t solve anything instead it steals your happiness and keep you busy doing nothing. You won’t be able to achieve anything meaningful with your life if you constantly worry about the things you can’t control. Whatever you can’t control is probably teaching you how to let go.
Don’t waste your time worrying about past incidents that ended badly because you weren’t in control. You can’t change what happened in the past. All you can do is accept the past and move forward with your life. It is advisable you stop worrying yourself about the things you can’t control and focus on only the thing you can control.
6. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
If you expect other people to make you happy, you will always be disappointed when they don’t meet up to your expectations. You are responsible for your own happiness. The key to happiness is being happy with yourself. No one knows you better than you know yourself, so don’t expect anyone to make you happy the way you truly want to be. Learn to be happy and enjoy your own company. Make your happiness a priority.
Thanks for reading.
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