5 Ways to Restore Your Relationship

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If you let your ego get bigger than your love for your partner, the relationship will crumble. Never let your ego stand between you and your partner. Always apologize first, no matter who is wrong or right in the relationship....

3 Things You Can Control

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Your greatest weapon against stress and anxiety is your ability to choose one thought over another. You have the power to choose what thoughts you let dominate your mind. It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give...

5 Words of Advice for Married Couples

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Your feelings for your partner may come and go, but loving them unconditionally is your choice. You shouldn’t stop loving your partner because you no longer feel the way you felt at the start of the relationship. Loving your partner...
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4 Reasons I fell in Love with My Girlfriend

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At first it was love at first sight. It seemed so good to be true that I thought it was mere infatuation. I desired to be with her more than anything else in the world. Could this be my soul...
Ways to Improve Your Mindset

4 Ways to Improve Your Mindset

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The programming of your mind affects everything you do. You can do no more than you believe you are capable of doing. If you always feel inept to do something, you are automatically reprogramming your mindset for failure. The Mind...
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3 Ways to Attract the Love of Your Life

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Be careful what you say to yourself, because you are also listening. Every word you voice out, whether positive or negative will take its effect in due time. Sometimes we say things we don’t really mean, thinking it won’t have...
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Some people aren't loyal to you, they are loyal to their need of you. Once their need changes, so does their loyalty. When you truly love someone, you will put all selfish interests aside. You will give your partner all you...

5 Ways to Make Your Relationship Last Forever

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Nothing lasts forever; but true love does. True love is able to stand the test of time in spite of challenges. Every relationship has its good times and bad times. True love not only perseveres when things are going great...

5 Habits That Will Improve Your Life

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The Gift Of The Present

What might have been is always an abstraction; an event that never took place. An endless possibility only in the world of speculation, of what might have been and what has. They both point to one end, which is always present. Every move we make always leads to this very moment. Right here right now. Somehow we always seem to find our self at this very moment.
The possibilities of what might have been are like footsteps that echoes in the memory, down the passage we did not take, towards the door we never got to open; an enigma that can never be understood by us humans. Dwelling on such wishful thoughts always leads to regret. Wishing it happened the way we planned.
Sometimes when things go wrong, we find ourselves spending too much time dwelling on past mistakes and on chances we didn’t or couldn’t take. We try to relive past experiences. This in turn puts us on hold of every good thing life got to offer. Life is a balance of holding on and letting go. We only experience the gift of the present, when we learn to balance life’s scale.

Every decision you have made so far, has led to this very moment. This is the moment of creation; where you get to choose how you want to act. How you choose to act is what makes the difference.
What should have been, will forever remain a mystery to us. It will make no difference if we knew all the past facts.
Take for example; Mrs. Megan, a relation to one of my good friends, shared an intriguing story with me. An unfortunate story about how she lost the love of her life to a tragic car accident. A day before her husband died, they both had an argument which eventually led to the exchange of hurtful words. Upon annoyance, she mistakenly wished him dead. Unfortunately, the following day he lost his life to a terrible car accident. When she heard the news she was overwhelmed with tears. She found it so hard to forgive herself for what she thought she did. She always found herself reliving that moment. Now she dwells in thoughts like; “if I hadn’t wished him dead, he would still be alive”. An endless possibility only in the world of speculation, of what might have been and what has; alternate reality. What might have been, will forever remain a mystery to her.

The past cannot be changed, forgotten, edited or erased; it can only be accepted. The law of non-resistance states that whenever you resist a situation, you are giving more power to it, therefore making the problem more difficult to solve. Accept the past for what it has been and look forward to a much better future by living in the present.
The gift of the present is experienced only when we show true appreciation to life as it unfolds. Do not give energy to a distorted imagination. Whenever you give energy to a distorted imagination, it impresses the subconscious with negative ideas; the genesis of bad decision making.

Appreciate little things people take for granted. Learn to live a life of gratitude for being here and now. The present is your gift. Appreciate it!!

Thanks for reading.

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This is amazing

Pretty Cynthia

I love the idea of holding on does more damage than letting go

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I'm glad it sends the message 🙂


I love it

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Thank you