How to Dictate Your Destiny

Your destiny is in your hands. No one can stop your destiny. Whatever anyone has dictated about you, done to you or how they made you feel does not in any way affect your destiny. The only power they have over you is the power you give them. Don’t give anyone the power to dictate your destiny.

You have the power to dictate your destiny. You can be whatever you want to be. Refuse to allow people and circumstances dictate how your life should go. Do not get discouraged when someone tells you that you are not good enough or that you are not fit for that position you desire.

You are in control of your destiny and you should dictate how you want your life to go. Take control of your destiny. Learn to believe in yourself and your abilities. Ignore negative people and naysayers who discourage you from embarking on your destiny. Whatever situation you find yourself in life, don’t give up and don’t give in to the pressure for they will surely pass.

Here are fourteen (14) ways to dictate your destiny;

1. Stand firm in faith.

Nothing can stop your destiny from being fulfilled, not even you. You can’t avoid your destiny by running away from it. Stand firm in faith in spite of difficult situations. Sometimes, it is hard to stand firm in faith when all hope seems lost. Regardless of the challenges you face in life, don’t lose faith. Put your faith in God without depending on your own understanding and he will direct your path.

Keep in mind that what other people say and do can’t stop you from fulfilling your destiny. You have been empowered by God with everything you need to fulfill your destiny so stand firm in faith and refuse to be intimidated.

See: Stand Firm in Faith

2. Disrupt the norm.

Old ways won’t open new doors. If you keep doing the same thing over and over again you will keep getting the same results. At some point you just have to break that repeated cycle in order to prevent you from getting the same results you have always be getting.

What may be regarded as norm and acceptable to others may be detrimental to your destiny. At some point you just have to disrupt the norm and do what your heart keeps telling you to do. Don’t do what others tell you to do because they say it is the norm. You must be prepared to disrupt the norm and make effective changes if you truly want to see positive changes in your life.

See: 5 Rules to Live a Successful Life

3. Change your perspective.

When a photographer can’t change a scene, he changes his angle and lens to capture the best of that scene. Likewise, when you can’t change a situation in your life, change your perspective and mindset to get the best of that situation.

Changing your perspective, changes your experience. When life gives you struggles out of the blue, utilize them to your advantage by learning and growing from them. Don’t let your circumstances dictate your destiny. It doesn’t matter how difficult your life appears to be, you can always change your perspective. If you find it difficult to change your situation, change your perspective. You can get through a difficult situation by changing your perspective to a more positive view.

See: 5 Ways to Get Through a Difficult Situation

4. Attract your change.

To attract better, you have to become better. You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a change. Be the change you want to see in the world. Transform your life through the power of a renewed mind. Always cultivate positive thoughts no matter the situation you find yourself. Be hopeful and consistently work towards making effective changes for the betterment of your life. Change starts with you and how you feel about yourself.

Growth is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don’t belong. Stop being afraid of what could go wrong, and start being excited about what could go right. Change is coming, learn to accept it.

See: How to Accept Change

5. Learn from your mistakes.

No one is entirely perfect. We all make mistakes and fall short of doing the right things. It’s not the mistake that matters but how you deal with it, what you learn from it and how you apply that lesson to your life.

You can learn great things from your mistakes if you quit denying them and learn from them. Your last mistake is your best teacher. Don’t let your mistakes dictate your destiny. Learn from every mistake that should have devastated you. Always keep in mind that the greatest lessons are usually learned at the worst times and from the worst mistakes. It is really okay to make mistakes provided that you learn from them.

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6. Keep moving forward.

If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. Don’t let the circumstances of life pull you down. No matter what comes your way, get over it and keep moving forward. If you make a mistake, learn from them and keep moving forward.

As you keep moving forward regardless of the challenges you encounter, doors of new opportunities will be opened for you. A few years from now, you will look back and realize that everything that you are currently stressing yourself about won’t even matter. Keep moving forward.

See: How to Pull Yourself Out of Negativity

7. Never see impossibilities.

Nothing is impossible for someone who knows what they want and will stop at nothing to achieve all their dreams and goals. Nothing is impossible for the believer. They are never scared of the circumstances they face because they know they will surely achieve all they had planned to achieve. It may take them sometime to achieve their goals, but they will never give up attempting to see their dreams come to fruition. It always seems impossible until it is done.

Never see impossibilities. You can achieve everything you want in life with the possibility mindset. Never say you can’t. Whenever you find yourself in a situation that seems out of your control, don’t conform to the impossibility mindset. Don’t be compelled by your situation to say “I can’t”, instead replace with “I can”. Always believe that you can achieve everything you set your mind to achieve.

See: 5 Secrets to Achieve Everything You Want in Life

8. Embrace your inner strength.

You are much stronger than you think you are; you may have gone through unpleasant situations in the past that should have devastated you, but you overcame them and got stronger. You have survived life-threating situations that should have broken you in pieces, but instead they only made you a stronger person. One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be inspiration to others to never give up.

Dictate your destiny by embracing your inner strength. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. Everything you need is within you; the strength, courage and confidence to change your life. You just need to look within yourself and find it.

See: 5 Ways to Build Strong Character

9. Deal with procrastination.

Nothing steals time as much as procrastination. Procrastination is well known as the thief of time. The more time you waste procrastinating on your dreams and goals, the more afraid you will be of failure, and the less likely you will embark on them. Procrastination increases your fear of failure.

Don’t wait until the following day before you do something that can be done today. Don’t wait until later before you begin that goal that has been on your mind for some time now. The more you procrastinate on doing something, the more your fears to achieve it increases. Quit procrastinating. Do it now.

See: 4 Effective Methods to Conquer Fear of Failure

10. Starve your distractions.

Starve your distractions, feed your focus. Most times, it isn’t the mountains ahead that wear you out, but the little pebble in your shoe. Starve whatever distracts you from your destiny. Your real competition is your distraction. The only way to feed your focus is by first starving whatever distracts you from achieving your goals.

You won’t be able to accomplish anything great in life if you keep letting yourself get distracted by things that have nothing to do with your goals. Always remember that your focus determines your reality. When you focus on problems you will have more problems. When you focus on possibilities, you will have more opportunities. Focus on your goals. Don’t look in any direction but ahead.

See: How to Maintain a Positive Mindset

11. Feed your passion.

Life is short. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that truly matters to you that moment is now. Now is the time to feed your passion in order to unlock your potential. It is your passion that empowers you to be able to do that thing you were destined to do.

Passion is energy. Always engage yourself in things that feed your passion and strengthen your spirit. Don’t waste your time doing things that doesn’t feed your passion. If you are doing what you are passionate about, everything in the universe will gravitate towards you.

See: 8 Ways to Protect Your Energy

12. Incubate your dreams.

If you don’t spend quality time incubating your dreams, they may never hatch. Having dreams is important, but a dream without action is merely a wish. Whatever your dreams are, they can all be achieved as long as you are prepared to sit on it to come to fruition. Let achieving your dreams be all you think and talk about. Refrain from using negative words that will hinder the manifestation of your dreams.

Set goals that will bring you closer to achieving your dreams and consistently work on them. As you wrap up for the day and prepare to rest for the following day, write out goals for the next day and sleep on them. As you go to bed thinking about your dreams, you receive more insights on ways to go about achieving your dream.

See: How to Manifest Your Dreams

13. Learn to say no.

Sometimes saying no is the most honest thing you can do for yourself. It sets healthy boundaries between you and others. If you do not feel like doing something, it is best you say no to the person than displease yourself to please the person. As you say no to something you don’t want, your sanity will be intact.

Don’t live your life to please other people. If you always try to please others, you will someday realize that you pleased no one, not even yourself.

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what others think of them. Don’t be afraid to say no to someone if you really mean to say no. People pleasing is a habit you should quit. Learn to say no unapologetically without feeling sorry for yourself.

See: 5 Habits You Should Quit

14. Overcome your fears.

Everything you want is on the other side of fear. The fears you don’t face becomes your limits. Your fears are what are keeping you from being successful in life. It is only when you are no longer afraid that you can begin to live the life of your dreams. Don’t let your fears stop you from achieving your dreams.

Nothing in life is to be feared, only to be understood. Fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind. Do the things you are afraid of and keep doing them to overcome your fears. Your desire to succeed must be greater than your fear of failure. Don’t let your fears dictate your destiny. Overcome your fears.

See also: 5 Fears You Must Overcome to Be Successful

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Chinenye Oranu
Chinenye Oranu
1 year ago

Changing one’s perspective remains a very important key needed to unlocking the door to destiny fulfillment.

When we go through challenges, how we decide to interpret it, goes a long way to tell if we’re going to enter a new phase of our life’s which is most likely the breakthrough we had always anticipated or if we are going to be stuck/stagnated on that current phase.

If we decide to see those challenges as a period to grow, learn & build capacity
in order to handle our new phase for destiny fulfillment, then it would never weigh us down, instead we’ll remain optimistic, cheerful and grateful to God.

A heart of gratitude to God in such challenging times triggers God’s mercy & upliftment- major ingredients of Greatness.

However, if we decide to see challenges as a period of fault finding, regrets and playing the blame game, it will lead to depression, fatigue and ingratitude to God.

Depression depletes your strength, such that you lack the zeal and motivation to do anything and also affects your thought pattern.

No one with a negative mindset can fulfill his/her destiny.

A negative mindset is a PERMANENT PADLOCK on the door that leads to Destiny Fulfillment.

As a man thinketh so he is (proverb 23: 7). We can never grow beyond our thoughts.

1 year ago

I loved this it made me open my eyes to see some of the things that I need to work on. It was very well written thank you so much for reminding me of some of these things to work on.

Ijele Tobian
Ijele Tobian
1 year ago

Dictating your own destiny is an art of his own. It lies in your hands and you have to put the work in to bring it to fruition. Thanks Simobel for this beautiful enlightening piece.

It’s a push to incubate your dreams and see the future actualized in your very eyes. I wish the world would see this and be geared to top up their game.

Life isn’t a bed of roses either and there are thorns in unexpected places but it’s in the bruises the glorious story lies at the end of the day.

Faith is an important essence because it is a product of a strong desire mixed with hope. Though you can’t see it at the time but you are convinced it has already happened. Living a normal life however is boring. We have to live contrary to what the society calls right or what the status quo permits. All we have to do is to live out of the limits and boundaries we must have set on ourselves. Kings don’t live normal lives.

Attracting the change we want to see is a prerequisite for our becoming. Staying around people that look like the future we envisage is very key.

Our mistakes don’t define who we are. They are the irritants that makes us form the pearl we seek. Forward ever is the best direction we can navigate in life.
We have to see the future, believe it, push for it and make progress each passing day.

Impossibilities is just a mirage. They don’t exist. Embrace your inner strength because you got this. Dig within and bring out the gold. Procrastination is not our friend either. It’s a paycheck to excuses. Deal with it and ensure you fight your demons and do the task now not later.

Distractions are unending. It’s our choice to overlook them or choose to be controlled by them. Feeding our focus would help us become less concerned about the things that do not matter along the way.

Overcome every thing that seems like limits in your life. Every atom of fear is a seed of failure. Let boldness rise from the inside of you. Overcome fear by seeing the fruition of your dreams with the eyes of your own imagination. Brush off every weakness, baggage and unbelief. You are what you think you are. Embrace positive thoughts and be devoted to meditating on your successes.

Simobel, This piece is beautiful. Thanks for giving light to my understanding. Keep up the good work. I love your posts.

1 year ago

Once again, great content!!! You’re putting our a lot of quality blogs. I love that you said keep moving forward regardless of the challenges you face in life. No matter what, we just need to keep moving forward in the direction of our destiny. Thanks for this great piece Simobel ❤️